When you discuss the wage gap, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Only white women make $0.77 to a man’s dollar.
- Black women make about $0.68 to a man’s dollar.
- Latina women make about $0.58 to a man’s dollar.
Re-posting because it’s always new to somebody. Truth bombs are full of truth.
Emily Maguire in ‘Like a Virgin’ for The Monthly (via monocled—misanthrope)
basically, young (cis) boys are taught to be predators. young (cis) girls are taught to be prey.
Yep, and cis girls who speak of their own pleasure as a priority are immediately demonized for the temerity of seeing their bodies as their own. Meanwhile cis boys are supposed to seek pleasure at every opportunity.
And by that I mean the whole stupid, foolhardy concept. I’ve said before that if you really believe there’s a horde of attractive women faking interest in nerdy things just to get your attention, you have a massive case of unwarranted self-importance, and I still believe that. I also believe you’re incredible insecure, and threatened by some ‘enemy’ who is no such thing.
The world of comic books, sci-fi, videogames, all these things, is no longer a boy’s club with a “NO GIRLS ALLOWED” banner hanging on the door, and it never should have been (indeed, I suspect it never really WAS but for this very idea - girls aren’t REAL nerds, especially attractive ones! And then the internet came up and holy shit look, women came out in droves to discuss their interest in these things, going back to the 1980s and earlier like the rest of us). If you insist somehow that it should be, that you should act as some kind of gatekeeper - he is a real nerd, she is not - then quite frankly you are just one of the saddest specimens we have to offer. Many of us grew up being picked on for having a non-mainstream interest, and now that this interest is spreading you attack and snarl and demean and exclude instead of actually being happy that you have new people to share these wonderful interests with.
You complain about games being rehashes, comic book reboots that are just retreads, but actively keep out the new blood and perspectives that could actually offer something you haven’t seen or considered before.
You demean women who cosplay as attention seekers in skimpy outfits, ignoring that they didn’t create those outfits, WE did.
Who cares if someone’s exposure and love for The Avengers came from the movie, and not the comics first?
Who cares if someone plays Angry Birds more than Dark Souls? What, you never fucking played Tetris? Don’t give me that non-game crap.
Oh no, she watches Thor because he’s tall blonde and built like a brick shithouse and isn’t afraid to comment that the guy’s a stud and so’s his brother? Yeah, because you read Tarot: Witch of the Rose for the riveting storytelling and characterization, right?
Oh no, someone’s writing fanfic about Tony Stark and Steve Rogers buttfucking! What a demeaning thing to do to the characters, you say as browsing the pictures I’ve been hired to draw of the women of X-Men having a lesbian orgy.
At the core of it all, for some insane reason, you are so threatened by the presence of women in your interests that you insult, you cajole, you harrass, and you embarrass the rest of us who are just happy to share. You slam women who are attractive and cosplay as NOT REAL NERDS, THEY’RE PREYING ON US POOR WIDDLE MENZ! And when they’re not as attractive as you’d like, you slam them for not meeting your standards. Or you slam them for daring not to give you the time of day when you grope and harass and hit on them. And if you look like me while doing it, that’s even more hilariously hypocritical and out of touch with reality. She’s not there for YOU, bro.
She’s not there for you.
She’s not there for you.
Let that sink in, guys.
She’s not there for you.
She’s not dressing up for you.
She’s not interested in comics for you.
She’s not playing games for you.
She’s. Not. There. For. You.
You are not the center of the universe, you never were and you never SHOULD be. It’s time to share your toys, guys. It’s time to be more mature. It’s time to drop the entitled attitude that insists our standards and our standards alone should be met. You do not hold the keys to the kingdom, for the kingdom has no lock.
My friend Kat - a geek with a cool job making awesome videogames like NFS The Run and mad cosplay skills - said something on Twitter earlier that summed the whole Fake Geek Girl BS up perfectly;
“That’s just it- “fake geek girls” DO NOT EXIST. There are only WOMEN WITH VARYING LEVELS OF INTEREST IN DIFFERENT HOBBIES.”
Many of the women cosplaying at these conventions probably know more about the current state of comics than I do, but I’ll never be asked to prove my nerd cred if I roll up in a Superman tee - and I haven’t bought an issue since the New 52 launched.
Fucking afford them the same courtesy. Don’t be a douchebag.
I wish that this would be talked about more—because people cast aside the idea that a huge amount of people could be getting abortions because of rape—but in all reality, with most rape, the rapist is well known which stands to reason that the majority of people getting abortions because of rape are dealing with incest (or spousal violence).
if we admit that incest is a huge fucking problem, then we’d have to admit that rape is a huge fucking problem. and it makes me mad that not only is the abortion “debate” so heavily influenced by the far right rhetoric—but that discussions on rape are ALSO being subtly influenced by them as well, whether it’s shutting down any discussion at all on rape (i.e. the “method of conception doesn’t matter” tactic) or the casting aside of the idea that incest matters is any part of the discussion at all….
this is not a “debate” between the “good” rape victim and the bad one—this is a covering up of the reality of rape especially as connected to the “family” unit and the ‘solution” to the problems of the world as presented by the christian far right…
Chipped nails betray nerves while bright red lipstick gives impression candidate is power-crazed
“Too little make-up also raised employers’ concerns.
A shortage of mascara suggested the woman could be an emotional wreck who wastes no time in putting on what will inevitably be cried off within hours.
A trace of lipstick on a woman’s teeth could imply carelessness, while a strong line of foundation hinted at a lack of attention to detail.
A drawn-on fake beauty spot could cause an interviewer to doubt the honesty of the candidate.
Even a woman appearing in immaculate make-up could ring alarm bells - telling the interviewer to watch out for their own job.”
The interview beauty blunders that could cost you your JOB
So basically, the only way to win this game is to not play, because no matter how you do your makeup, it could reflect poorly on you.
And people wonder why I get so angry every time someone tells me I should put a bunch of cosmetic crap on my face for job-hunting/interviewing/what-have-you. “You’ll look more polished.” Someone tell me why the fuck I have to put all this shit on my face to look “polished” when all a guy needs to do is shave and comb his hair neatly.