there is a difference between shipping non-canon slash pairings and acting like your non-canon cis white canonically hetero* slash pairing is a bastion of queer representation and progress.
there is a difference between teasing that two characters in a slash pairing have chemistry that might be romantic and/or sexual, and actually delivering on it.
and there is a difference between calling people out on getting these things confused, and bashing someone, throwing shade at them, or telling them that they can’t ship things.
please learn aforementioned differences and how to distinguish between these situations before you start getting pissed off about queer people in fandom who want to see more and better representation of queer characters in our source texts (books, movies, TV shows, etc).
and hey, if you feel like we’ve shut you down and made you feel like the world doesn’t want you? FUCKING CONGRATS, BECAUSE THAT’S HOW THE WORLD MAKES US FEEL, BASED ON OUR SEXUAL ORIENTATIONS AND/OR GENDER IDENTITIES** ALL OF THE TIME.
* there is also a difference between saying in an interview or at a convention that a character might be queer and actually making that character queer in canon. you should also learn this difference. and yes, I am very deliberately looking at YOU, Supernatural and Teen Wolf fandoms.
** this is even truer in the cases of queer POC, trans* people, disabled queer people, and so on down the list of intersecting oppressions, basically coming down to, “if you aren’t a white cis homosexual man or maybe a white cis homosexual woman, not even the mainstream so-called ‘LGBTQ’ movement really wants anything to do with you and you probably won’t be included in a lot of what they work for.”
when i say i “ship” something. I do use it to mean I want them involved in a sexual and/or romantic fashion.
i don’t necessarily mean i want them to be in a relationship or to like each other or to care about each other. or that I feel they’re important to one another. some of my ships are everything and i do want that. While others I do like for the sole purpose of I think they’d have really amazing and crazy, sometimes twisted and dark, sex together and i’d like to see/read about that because i’m a pervert sometimes, okay.
this is pretty close to how i ship things. and it explains why sometimes i’ll say ‘i ship it’ when i just mean ‘maybe they’ll have a one-night stand when their universes converge’ or something equally non-committal, and other people understandably think i mean ‘i want them to be together forever.’